I also didn't worry about their sibling relationship. After all, the big brother/little sister relationship is the perfect setup, right? Big brother watches over little sister and keeps her from harm. It couldn't be better. Upon learning that our baby was Liza rather than O'Bannon, I immediately pictured them in high school and thought how lucky Liza is to have a loving and caring big brother like Henry.
Then, life happened. My expectations of endless love were met and exceeded. The watchful big brother expectation? Not so much.
Henry turned 2 when Liza was only 10 days old. Not sure about other 2-year-old little boys but mine is certainly not consistently loving and caring. He has his moments of sweet hugs, kisses and pats. But he also has his moments of pushing down Liza just because he can, ripping toys out of her grabby little hands, pointing his finger in her face and telling her 'no no no' and general devastation if she touches him or invades his personal space.
Sometimes I think about what Henry would be like if Liza wasn't in our lives. I would certainly have more time and patience for one-on-one interaction without a baby in tow. He wouldn't have the lure of a little sister to harass, therefore drastically cutting back on poor behavioral choices.
No matter the tears and shrieks and the peace she enjoys during his naptime, Liza obviously worships her brother. And, no matter the "no hold Lila, hold me" Henry says on a daily basis, he loves his sister and doesn't remember life without her sweet little presence.
I'm glad my kids have each other to entertain, to harrass, to mold, to watch and to learn from. I worry about a lot of things as a mama but I never worry about my kids' sibling relationship. I anticipate rough patches in the future and hard times being big brother and little sister but I never ever question the fact that they will love and respect each other as the years unfold.
How do you feel about your kids' relationships with their siblings?