tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post6238015320371898398..comments2023-10-12T10:38:32.827-05:00Comments on Bigs and Littles: thinking about sleep.Laura @ Our Messy Messy Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10036017218322694255noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-22378735351512461302011-02-03T15:20:05.223-06:002011-02-03T15:20:05.223-06:00With all due respect Laura's Mama, I always as...With all due respect Laura's Mama, I always ask questions. Probably too many! The GI Specialist was unable to give me a sufficient answer as to how his advice applied to our specific situation. Breastfed babies have fewer nighttime reflux symptoms (opposite is true of formula fed babies), and so nighttime waking due to reflux has never really been a problem for us. That is what made the suggestion so odd.. I didn't ask him for anything related to sleep at all. <br /><br />I was mostly being facetious about ignoring a man's advice about breastfeeding, but I'll admit, I am certainly more skeptical. As I am also skeptical about breastfeeding advice from a mother who did not breastfeed. It may not be fair, but it's the truth.shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15314556735974885104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-40661725011476883322011-01-31T21:20:02.813-06:002011-01-31T21:20:02.813-06:00Well one of our friends wives told me that she had...Well one of our friends wives told me that she had her second baby sleeping through the night at 6 or 7 weeks because she let her cry it out starting at 4-5 weeks. I'm sorry I just can't agree with that at all. Yes, my bfed baby went 8 hours on his own at exactly 2 months, but he was hungry after that 8 hr stretch. After the feeding he would go back to sleep for another 3-4 hrs. He's always liked his nighttime sleep - and even when he woke to eat or needed soothing, he almost always went back to sleep with no problem. And in hindsight, when he started these 8 hr stretches, I should have done a dream feed and then gotten myself 8 hrs of sleep.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-73726854247158261992011-01-31T21:08:32.015-06:002011-01-31T21:08:32.015-06:00Maybe the GI MD was trying to minimize the reflux ...Maybe the GI MD was trying to minimize the reflux from midnight till the next awakening or maybe he thought the reflux was causing the crying and awakening. Ask questions. Don't just ignore all advice from a man(I suggest finding a woman MD)--just the ones you've tried a few times and don't work. Also, I really hope he said to raise the head of the bed, but mainly the baby rolls to the bottom in a heap and no resolution.<br /><br />Ya'll may be getting too radical in your reactions. Did anyone say let the baby cry it out? I bet not. That was, hopefully, a projection on your part. I agree. Unless they are 3 years old or more and still won't go to sleep in their own bed, then do it once and follow the advice of the "books". <br /><br />Ya'll are not the first mothers with these problems. There are not always easy solutions, but we all loved our babies as much as you do and did our very best to learn, teach and guide. Laura thinks she had a happy childhood. I remember it totally differently.<br /><br />Taylor, your quote makes no sense, but I still love that you think you are poetic.<br /><br />Love all mothers,<br /><br />Laura's MamaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-24531366692152046132011-01-31T09:11:12.692-06:002011-01-31T09:11:12.692-06:00Mine woke up at least once during the night until ...Mine woke up at least once during the night until 9 or 10 months. Some nights he was hungry, so I nursed him, and other nights he needed rocking or soothing. Honestly, I think half the people who say there babies sleep 12 hrs by 6-8 weeks aren't telling the truth - I think they believe that's what they're supposed to say :). And those people that let a bitty baby cry it out are inhumane in my opinion. I don't understand how they think a tiny baby is already supposed to sleeping that long a stretch without being hungry (and I know formula babies can go longer, but they still shouldn't go that long). And I still rock my now 19 month old at bedtime, and it doesn't bother me one bit that I can't just put him in bed and walk away. I am sure I won't still be rocking him when he's 19 :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-57882074045133004792011-01-30T12:51:16.891-06:002011-01-30T12:51:16.891-06:00Shay, good point. Never take breastfeeding or bab...Shay, good point. Never take breastfeeding or baby sleep advice from a man. I like that.<br /><br />FYI, we are back to more frequent wakings but that's okay too :)Laura @ Our Messy Messy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10036017218322694255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-36575210453344983442011-01-30T11:58:35.501-06:002011-01-30T11:58:35.501-06:00I thought you might find it interesting that the p...I thought you might find it interesting that the pediatric GI specialist I saw encouraged me to stop motn feedings for Veda. Nevermind that she was only 5 months, or that it had nothing to do with our presenting concern, or that as a reflux baby she likely gets 20-25% of her daily caloric intake at night, or that there may not be another way to get a hungry baby back to sleep unless you feed the hungry baby. I said to him, "so yes, anyway.. about our concerns.." Oh, and I didn't mention that I make it a habit never to take BFing advice from a man.shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15314556735974885104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-85125759295532249592011-01-29T11:26:29.515-06:002011-01-29T11:26:29.515-06:00I am with you. Totally agree. And am so happy you ...I am with you. Totally agree. And am so happy you got that good sleep....!!! delicious right?Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02506501649953006361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-60635150146773478302011-01-28T20:43:10.529-06:002011-01-28T20:43:10.529-06:00Sadie still wakes up a lot at night. It is frustr...Sadie still wakes up a lot at night. It is frustrating how many people ask in a doubtful, critical way, "oh, she doesn't sleep through the night yet?" Or they flat out tell me she should be doing that now. I kind of look at her sleep the same way you do, she is a baby, she still wakes up a lot to nurse. We don't really do any of the sleep training stuff--just try to go off of her natural cues. I hear ya about being a bit sleep deprived though--it can be tough, but it is for a relatively short fraction of a humans' life!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10827218123918470880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-4113198686546206442011-01-28T20:39:04.339-06:002011-01-28T20:39:04.339-06:00Sleeplessness is the bedfellow of strange acquaint...Sleeplessness is the bedfellow of strange acquaintances meeting surreptitiously with realityTaylor Dearmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-88513806495168832502011-01-28T17:24:31.568-06:002011-01-28T17:24:31.568-06:00Ali, I skimmed a few sleep training books when I w...Ali, I skimmed a few sleep training books when I was pregnant with Henry but I couldn't and still don't understand the one-size fits all approach to sleep.<br /><br />Rebecca, I am lucky! <br /><br />Lindsay, occasionally I bring her in the bed with us at the crack o' dawn but usually if she is awake, she is awake for the day.....Laura @ Our Messy Messy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10036017218322694255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-30613655782465811082011-01-28T16:32:53.520-06:002011-01-28T16:32:53.520-06:00If Henry decided to wake at 5, he comes back into ...If Henry decided to wake at 5, he comes back into bed with mama OR Philip starts his day at 5!! lol :) Well thought out. I like it!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16688352282467855607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-90943229210789354692011-01-28T11:46:54.294-06:002011-01-28T11:46:54.294-06:00love that you wrote Taylor starts his day at 4:30,...love that you wrote Taylor starts his day at 4:30, lucky you:)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133620082798144008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6432600533968414372.post-80335459516903839002011-01-28T10:44:31.634-06:002011-01-28T10:44:31.634-06:00I think our baby sleep philosophies are the same. ...I think our baby sleep philosophies are the same. Sleep training books stressed me out. We just did what we felt was common sense. Worked for us.The Shermanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04011229058434397802noreply@blogger.com